Welcome to the Self Discovery Series!
We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. ~Marcel Proust
We all reach the trailhead to this path by different means.
I stumbled onto it unintentionally in the midst of a spiritual quest. Now it’s taken me to places I would have never imagined.
Maybe you came after reaching a new milestone in your life, like graduating from college or getting a big promotion. Maybe you arrived after a major life change, such as a birth or death. Perhaps you were prompted by a friend. Hell, maybe you’re in a quarter or mid-life crisis.
Regardless of how you arrived, the point is you’re here — and I’m so glad you are. If you’re reading this, odds are, you’ve already started asking yourself life’s big questions.
Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose?
For some, this journey may seem too daunting. They never get past asking the questions. As if dipping a toe in a cold pool, they recoil. They convince themselves the answers don’t matter or that they are beyond reach.
But for those who are willing to brave the journey, the risks are worth the rewards.
What are the rewards of self-discovery?
Growth & Change
Is there anything in your life that you would like to be different than it is now? Anything you want to have or achieve? A relationships to restore? Contributions to make?
If so, you are required to change in some way – to grow.
Whether you want to improve your performance at work, in a sport, in a relationship, or any other aspect of your life, self-discovery and self-awareness enable that growth and change.
Some feel as though the path to self-discovery is a selfish one. Why should I spend so much time thinking about myself? Others see it as too “fluffy” or “woo-woo.”
Well imagine you were in the middle of an unfamiliar forest with a terrain map and a compass. What good do these tools do if you don’t understand what they are or how to use them?
The reality is, with self-awareness comes a better understanding of your personality preferences, natural talents, and strengths–and how to leverage them. The better you understand yourself, the better equipped you are to make wise choices for yourself.
Rather than making excuses about why your life is the way it is, you can make conscious choices about how to live your life.
Furthermore, self-discovery can actually lead us to our legacy. By coming to know ourselves, we will better understand our impact on the environment and the ripples we are creating in the world. We learn how we can best serve others and make a valuable contribution.
They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. ~Confucius
What are these risks I speak of?
Growth and Change
Yes, with growth and change you get the benefits mentioned above. But we all know change can be difficult. Stepping out of comfort zone and stretching our boundaries can be uncomfortable.
As you become more in tune with yourself, you may find that your interests begin to change. You might even find your core beliefs changing. As a result, your lifestyle changes, and maybe even the whole direction of your life. Where you were once headed may no longer make sense to you.
All of these shifts might change your relationships with family and friends as well.
Yes, those can be scary things, but if we ever hope to become more, we must learn to face those fears and push past them. What were your life be like if you settled for crawling — if you were too afraid to take those first steps? If we want to reach new heights, we must grow.
If we don’t, we risk coming to the end of our lives filled with regret. We risk never truly living at all.
”The quality of our lives depends on our ability to move from fear into awareness.” ~Robin Easton
Beginning the Journey
When it comes to self-discovery, there are many peaks and valleys to explore, and there is no right or wrong way to go about it.
I’ve come a long way in terms of my own self-discovery over the past several years, and I’ve realized many of the risks and rewards. I am in a much different place today than I would have imagined seven years ago, but I feel a deep sense of satisfaction about where I am and the direction my life is headed. I don’t know if this journey will ever be complete, but it feels good to be on the right path.
I can’t tell you where to go, but I can share with you where I’ve been.
This series will be about retracing my steps of self-discovery. Plus I’ll be adding insights from others’ journeys, in the hopes that both may help guide you down your own path.
While it will begin linearly, eventually this series will become a comprehensive resource for all those embark on this journey. You will be able to pick and choose which aspects to explore and where to start. Like looking at a map of a zoo or amusement park, you will get to decide which animals or rides you would like to check out first.
Here’s a brief list of coming attractions. Whether you’re a novice or a seasoned veteran of self-discovery, I hope to offer something for everyone.
Areas to Explore:
- Theories of Self-Discovery and Awareness — including Emotional Intelligence, Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, and other thoughts on self-discovery from some of the best minds
- Reflecting on Life’s Important Questions — involving Purpose, Meaning, Happiness
- Personality — preferences, learning style, strengths, talents, motivation, stressors
- Helpful Tools and Resources — Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, StrengthsFinder, 16 Personality Factors, and a wide variety of books
- Uncovering Your Life Story — values, goals, dreams, fears, passions, and habits
- Delving into Consciousness — your thoughts, fears, constructed beliefs and how they shape your reality
- Wellness Engines (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Intelligence) — Wants vs Needs
- Retreats, Conferences, Workshops — an experiential approach to self-discovery
This isn’t a course or a 30-day challenge (although I do love those) — it’s part of a life-long journey. If there’s an area that calls out to you, please dig in! If you want to share your thoughts and progress, jump in on the community facebook page, or leave a comment below!
This is all about you – your journey. It’s about taking the road less traveled and living your extraordinary life!Image credit: John Watson